Month: December 2017

First, I’d like to apologize for not posting last week. I had other priorities I had to complete first, and I also left town. This week I thought with the holiday season, we should talk about love.

A few weeks ago, one of my friends and I were talking about our definition of love. Her definition of that word was very different than mine, which led me to think more deeply about it.

Merriam-Webster defines love as a “strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties”.

In my opinion there are different types of love, although some would disagree. I believe there are types of love from parents to their children, or friend love. I may say that I love the beach, but I feel a different type of love from the beach as I feel for my mother.

Love is a word that is also thrown around by some couples or friends, but it is not the love some may wish to feel. Sometimes it’s said without the meaning behind it. Now I’m not saying that you shouldn’t tell your friends you love them, because I love my friends. They’ve stuck with me through thick and thin.

There’s also toxic love; love you shouldn’t feel but you do. There could be a manipulative significant other who only says it to keep you all together, but they don’t mean it. *If you’re in one of these relationships, please leave. You’ll only continue to hurt yourself. After it’s over, keep it over; please don’t go back to them.*

Love is also a very good thing (if it has the meaning behind it). The first time you tell someone you love them is a pretty big deal. It means you feel something very deep within you about this person, and you want to keep them around for a very long time, which is great!

I personally haven’t found the one for me yet, but I do love my best friends, my pets, and my family. There is no specific order for those, but I feel different types of love for them all, which is okay.

-Just a side note, if your partner tells you that they love you, it doesn’t mean you have to say it back. If you’re not ready, then don’t say it. Only do what makes you feel comfortable.

Also on the topic of pressure, don’t let your significant other take advantage of you or manipulate you into doing anything you’re not ready for just by telling you that they love you. That’s not a good situation, and you need to reevaluate that relationship.

Love is a fantastic feeling overall. Some may not believe in true love, but I do. I believe that once you find the right person, you will know. There is a person out there to balance out your personality with theirs, and will love you unconditionally. You just have to wait-unless you’ve already found that person, then congratulations! I wish you the best life together.

With all of that being said, best wishes my friends. Thanks for reading this weeks post. Feel free to leave a comment by clicking on the title, and scrolling down to the comment section.

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With finals week coming up, students become more stressed daily. With knowing that we have to take a test worth 10% of our grade, over the things we have learned since August. That is 5 months of knowledge on one test.

Even if your not a student, adults have stress in their normal lives. With overflowing to do lists, bills and taxes need to be paid, and food needs to be bought for their families. Stress is something that is seen in every person sometime throughout their lifetime.

The question is: why do some allow stress to overtake their lives? I believe the answer is because many people do not know efficient stress management skills.

Here are a few things that I’ve come up with that helps me with stress.

1. Create a manageable to do list/schedule. Don’t create a list that is not manageable and overflowing with things that you will not have time for. You could make a 3 part list per day, including: necessary to do’s, kind of important, & can wait until later. This will help you be more organized and know exactly what you need to do.
2. Take breaks. Now don’t take a break every 5 minutes, but maybe every hour go relax and breathe for a few minutes. Get a drink of water and just breathe. Take a few minutes for yourself to stop studying or running around. Your health is most important.
3. Set certain goals for yourself. In order to be less stressed, you need goals. If you’d like to save $400 this month, create a list of things you need to do that month, you will accomplish your goals.
4. Give yourself the time you need to get it done. Don’t give yourself an hour only to study for finals. You need to take multiple hours to get it done. If you wish to save a certain amount of money, give yourself the time and ways to achieve that.
5. Don’t set unrealistic goals. If you set unrealistic goals, it will only hurt you from not accomplishing it. It will not help in anyway to set unrealistic goals.

Stress is avoidable. You must know ways to feel less stressed, and control your time efficiently.

“You need to be able to manage stress because hard times will come, and a positive outlook is what gets you through” –Marie Osmond. 

Good luck with finals, or with life in general. Feel free to leave a comment and express your opinion on stress, or any of my previous posts.

Until next week,

-Mady

From a young age, we are asked what we’d like to do when we grow up. At the age of 4, I wanted to be a princess. A princess with a big pink dress, and a large tiara on top of my head. Others girls wanted to be a doctor or a veterinarian, but I wanted to be a princess.

Before we graduate high school at the ages of 17 or 18, we are expected to decide our entire future. Colleges begin to email us at 15, take the ACT placement test at 14 and 16, and apply to colleges at 17. Our minds are still not fully grown, but we are forced to decide how we will spend the next 2-80 years.

The future is a commonly talked subject with families and friends, but it is also one of the scariest topics for me to talk about. The truth us, most of us pretend we know what we want to do, and plan to do, but we don’t. We don’t know if we’ll pass college, if we’ll get into the school, or if we’ll even get married.

It’s scary to me because the future is uncertain. In our lives, we tend to stick to what we know, and stay in our comfort zone. But honestly, college is completely out of my comfort zone. Moving away from home, away from all of the people I know and love, and moving to a completely new place.

Even if y’all aren’t going to college, beginning one of the jobs that you might have forever, is scary. Meeting your boss, can be scary. But at the end of your first day, you may be overwhelmed or you may be extremely content.

Although we have to choose at a young age, the future is also an exciting time. It means new beginnings, new friendships, and new adventures.

It may be scary, but in the end it is completely worth it.

 

Thanks for reading, feel free to leave a comment and express your opinions.